Happy Mother's Day!Sunday, May 12, 2013
Mother's Day was very rough for me last year. I was at my freaking-out-over-my-barren-womb peak, and it was just not a fun time for me at all. I hoped and prayed that this year would be different, but obviously, it hasn't been so far (though I think it won't be too much longer :). The difference is, this year, I'm not just sitting around feeling sorry for myself. At least not while I type this. We'll see how things go at church. This year, I am instead choosing to not dwell on the fact that I don't get to be recognized as a mother this year, and choosing to celebrate the mothers that I do care about. Mother's Day isn't all about me.
To my mama -- It seems like a lot of people tend to take after one parent in particular, but I think I'm an awkward, perfect mix of both of you. Though everyone has always said that I'm the spitting image of my dad, I have your mouth, the mole on my neck that you insist all the women in our family have, and your "what the heck is wrong with you?" look. I have your brains (but not in a zombie way. Yet.), your sarcasm, and your pride and appreciation for our family history. While my childhood wasn't exactly a smooth ride for me, and I wasn't always an angel, I like to think that you rubbed off on me in the best way possible. And though I'm not exactly in the place in life that we both thought I would be in, I really hope I've made you proud. I know that I've always been proud to be your daughter (well, except for maybe the time you were singing "I Want It That Way" in Meijer. That was mortifying).
To my mother-in-law -- I mostly just want to say thank you. Thank you for welcoming me into your family. Thank you for not being one of those crazy mother-in-laws who their daughter-in-laws hate. Thank you for always being so kind and generous when we've needed your help. Thank you for taking such good care of your entire family. But mostly, thank you for raising a good man. I'm honored to be his wife, and I know that you played a huge role in the man he's grown to be. Thank you.
To my Granny -- You truly are the rock of our family. It's been hard to not see you as often as I used to (after all, I did live with you for a year, and then we lived next door), but I know that no matter what the distance, your love for me never diminishes. I know that today is going to be atypical for you, and probably a little bittersweet, since Aunt Jan died yesterday and you're so far away from your own children today. I pray that you can take comfort in the family down in Elkhart, and in knowing that you have surely been a comfort to Bobbie Jo and her family this past month (not to mention to Aunt Jan in her final days). Know that even though you are one of the strongest women I know, that it's okay if you need to be weak now and then. I love you, and I can't wait to see you (hopefully sooner rather than later).
To my Grandma Sally -- In my life, you've been more of a second mom to me than a grandma. If there was ever anybody who had my back, it's you. It's been that way from before my first breath, and I know it'll be that way until you take your last. Throughout the craziness of my life, you have been the one constant. No matter what, I've always been able to come to you with anything. You've always been my "person", and I will be eternally grateful for that. I seriously don't know what I'd do without you. I only wish I was able to be more of a help to you now, and that I would have been more of a help when I lived with you.
To all the other mothers out there -- Happy Mother's Day! No matter how stressed you might be, or how unappreciated you might feel, know that your efforts are not in vain. Being a parent is SO important, and everything you do has an impact on your child. Delight in the small moments, and never take parenthood for granted. Appreciate the gift you've been given, and make the most of every day with your little ones. If your little ones aren't so little anymore, take pride in knowing you helped shape who your children have become. Even if your kids don't always say so, they're (more than likely) grateful for everything you've done for them.
For the moms-to-be -- Congrats! I wish you all a happy (sort of) first Mother's Day! I imagine this is probably a pretty exciting day for you! Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy (I wish you a healthy and happy one), and enjoy your babies when they get here!
For the moms who only get to hug their children in their hearts today -- I grieve with you. I know this can be a difficult day. If anything, I hope that you can find something today that will put a smile on your face. You are stronger than you know, and your strength is inspiring to others. Know that it's okay to feel. To feel sad. To feel angry. To feel jealous. To feel none of these things. No matter what you're feeling, your feelings are natural and okay. If you need to take a step back today, that's okay too. You are not alone.
No matter what your situation today, I wish all of you a Happy Mother's Day!