Guest Post: Infertility From A Man's PerspectiveMonday, March 31, 2014
As you know if you're a regular reader of this blog, Tom and I have been dealing with infertility for three years. Since infertility affects the couple, not just the woman or just the man, I thought it would be good to have Tom talk about how he feels about what we've been going through. I'll admit that even though it's not very long, he said some things that surprised me. - Alex
Alex asked me to write about how infertility has affected our family.
I think she's already put out the facts - we've been trying for three years, and no baby. Though she's been better recently, she has taken it really hard and it has upset her a lot. As for me, I don't know.
I mean, I REALLY want to be a dad. But I also know that I will be one someday.
I don't really doubt that it will happen. Through all the struggles, the thought of our first (and second, and third...) born being brought into the world has never changed. I always see it happening at the hospital, with Alex as the one physically having the child. That vision has never really changed, and I believe that if you can see something that vividly, it will happen. It's kind of like how some people (including Alex) can dream something and then it happens (no matter how mundane) weeks later.
Even if we're off, there are other ways to have kids. I won't lie that I've had negative feelings about adoption before, but if that is what we have to do, so be it.
No matter what, I know I'll be a dad and Alex will be an amazing mom. That is just how life is going to work out. Even if we're having issues now, we're young still and barring a tragic accident, we have time to put other options into action if need be. But deep down, I know it will happen exactly how Alex wants it to.
Nothing good comes easy.
This might come off as insensitive, but I really don't care what the vessel is that brings the kids, as long as they show up - and they will.