You Are Not Alone...In Feeling AloneMonday, April 20, 2015
This week is National Infertility Awareness Week, a week to make information about infertility more prevalent. If you're a regular reader of my blog, you know that I have been pretty open about my own infertility, so you may wonder why I think we need to spread more information about it. The sad fact of the matter is that many continue to suffer in silence, and many people do not understand some of the causes of infertility and what it can do to a person.
This year's theme is You Are Not Alone, which I thought was very fitting. Infertility can be extremely isolating. It is not at all uncommon to feel alone. To feel like nobody else could possibly understand what you're going through. To feel like you're the only one having to deal with the crushing weight of infertility.
These are feelings I am all too familiar with.
Even when I had other friends struggling with infertility, I felt alone. This only increased as the years went by, and one by one, they began having healthy pregnancies and beautiful children. It seemed that I was the only one left aching for so long for something I can't have, and even though I know that I am not the only infertile person in the world (after all, 1 in 8 couples face in fertility at some point), it can still be hard not to feel that way sometimes.
It seems to be an implied rule in American society that we don't talk about infertility because it's "unpleasant". As a result, many people keep their struggles to themselves, and that can be an even more isolating feeling. Of course, people have the right to their privacy, and I would never imply that someone who does not feel comfortable talking about their infertility should feel forced to do so. It's an extremely personal topic, and some people just don't want to share that part of their lives, and that's fine.
But if you think you wouldn't mind talking about it, I encourage you to do so. It doesn't have to be on a big public platform like a blog or Facebook, but sometimes even just telling one person can help you to feel less alone. Telling your story can even inspire someone else who has been hiding their infertility to reach out to you, and I don't know about you, but I always feel better when there's someone else who can relate. If you don't want people in your life to know, but still want to talk about it, there are many online forums where you can connect with others in similar situations in an anonymous way.
If you have been dealing with infertility and you feel alone, please feel free to reach out to me. You can email me to keep things more anonymous if that makes it easier.
You don't have to do this by yourself.
You are not alone.
And I am not alone either.
For more information on infertility, please visit http://www.resolve.org/about-infertility/what-is-infertility/
For more information of National Infertility Awareness Week, please visit http://www.resolve.org/national-infertility-awareness-week/about.html